How to Fix the No. 1 Cause of Arguments in Marriage

Think-together-textHere’s what you have to do to fix one of, if not THE, leading underlying cause of arguments in marriages and relationships. Understanding this single, yet critical element can make a huge difference. So here it is…

Men and women think differently. We say we know this, but when push comes to shove, we wonder how it’s possible that he or she doesn’t see it my way.

This is what happens in relationship. An event takes place. Maybe it’s around personal finances. Maybe it’s about the kids and parenting. Maybe it has to do with health and well-being. While it goes without saying that men and women are often on the same page about these things, it’s not uncommon for them to see the same situation quite differently. In those cases, one party or the other often insists that if they are looking at the same circumstances, how could their partner not see it their way. One or both partners dig in and insist they are right. Arguments start, eyes begin to roll, and connection is eroded.

There is nothing that can be done about the differences in how men and women think, nor should we want to change them. Those differences are perfect and natural. They aren’t going anywhere, nor should they. We need to leave room for the possibility that our partner sees things differently, and that how they see it is perfectly valid. That’s the start of understanding and empathy. Providing that space is the point of reconnection.

Developing this empathy takes practice, commitment, and a willingness to see things from the other person’s perspective. Supporting committed couples in understanding how this works is what the “Between Men and Women” Rocky Mountain Couples Relationship Retreat is all about. To learn if our group and private intensive programs are right for you please visit.

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