Understanding women is a laudable, though near impossible goal for men in relationship. There’s nothing wrong with this. It’s just how it is. It’s one of those cosmic jokes that keeps life and relationships interesting.
You see, men and women operate with different forms of logic. Or more accurately, men and women both have access to “linear” logic, while women also have access to “random” logic. These forms of logic allow each sex to do what they are naturally best at. The flip side of the coin, however, is that they also enable men and women to interpret the same situation very differently. Conflict and frustration can often be the result.
This is what happens in relationship. An event takes place. Maybe it’s around personal finances. Maybe it’s about the kids and parenting. Maybe it has to do with health and well-being. While it goes without saying that men and women are often on the same page about these things, it’s not uncommon for them to see the same situation quite differently. In those cases, one party or the other often insists that if they are looking at the same circumstances, how could their partner not see it their way. One or both partners dig in and insist they are right. Arguments start, eyes begin to roll, and connection is eroded.
There is nothing that can be done about the differences in how men and women think, nor should we want to change them. Those differences are perfect and natural. They aren’t going anywhere, nor should they. We need to leave room for the possibility that our partner sees things differently, and that how they see it is perfectly valid.That’s the start of understanding and empathy. Providing that space is the point of reconnection.
To fully understand these and other critical differences between men and women – what they are, what their purpose is and how they actually fit perfectly together in relationship – consider joining us for the next “Between Men and Women” Rocky Mountain Couples Relationship Retreat. Click here for all the details and upcoming dates.
To Your Greatness!