Emotions either run really high, OR you stuff them all DOWN when you’re in the middle of a communication breakdown. Emotions like anger, resentment and anxiety lead you (or your partner) straight to defensiveness, aggression, shutting down and indeed, the very traits that will cause MORE breakdown for you as a couple.
Perpetual anger, resentment or sadness at knowing what your relationship/ marriage COULD be, but not having any way to get there, is exhausting and draining.
The “Between Men and Women” Couples Communication Success Retreat is a way to get there. It’s a logical approach to getting what you want in relationship, one that replaces what, up to this point, has been overruled by emotion.
It’s okay. It’s not your fault, but it really is time to admit that you DON’T know how to figure this out yourselves. It’s not personal to either of you. You’re not a failure. None of us is born knowing this stuff. Not one of us!
Research experts in this area tell us that couples wait an average 6 years too long to get the help they need. So the time to do something is NOW. The longer you wait, and keep trying to figure it out, the more it costs you. Your self esteem takes a big hit. You sense your own helplessness, and you start to wonder… “Maybe this is as good as it gets … is this really what I signed on for?”.
There is only so much of this stress that couples can shoulder before they really start to buckle. The longer you wait to make real change, the more resentment and utter desperation sets in as the connection between you seems to be badly broken.
You’re not really struggling yet? Well if there is something on your radar that’s not feeling quite right, and you both KNOW it, NOW is the time to do something.
Like I said, you are not born knowing how to make relationships work. You have to learn it. That’s why I do what I do. The “Between Men and Women” Couples Communication Success Retreat gives you the physiological, psychological and behavioural understandings you need to finally take your relationship where you’ve always wanted it to go.
Here’s where science becomes your greatest ally and most valuable resource because when you know what to DO, communication success can be learned. One of the biggest reasons you tend to avoid taking on the task of fixing messy communication in your relationship is because the task can seem too big to handle.
As soon as you think you know what to focus on, something ELSE comes up to get in your way. It spirals. It never ends. You can’t get ahead of it all. Constant challenges, one after another. OR it’s that same darned thing again that you THOUGHT you dealt with the last time. Why does it keep coming back to haunt you? Why can’t you ever get a handle on it, for good?
The very best way to make any problem manageable is to reduce it down into chunks and deal with it one chunk at a time.
Adding what works for you, and removing what doesn’t work for you sounds simplistic, but it’s the shortcut to having the experience you want. And knowing what needs to be added or removed is exactly what the “Between Men and Women” Couples Communication Success Retreat will show you.
The Truth Is…Often, partners want RESOLUTION of their ISSUES, and that’s why there is a continuous, but unnecessary, pull to go back to the PAST.
You will be FLOORED to learn that scientific RESEARCH now tells us that 70% of our conflicts are NOT RESOLVABLE.
Whoa! What this means is you can’t handle most of the CONFLICT you have going on the way you THINK it should be handled. THIS is HUGE! It doesn’t mean it doesn’t get handled… it means it doesn’t get handled the way YOU THINK it should be handled.
What then? There’s nothing worse than wanting to produce a result but not having a CLUE HOW to do that. This has you feel like a failure, inept and gets you doubting yourself AND your partner. It helps then, to know exactly HOW to move forward without always having to go to the past to somehow “fix” what happened back then.
People do the “Between Men and Women” Couples Communication Success Retreat because they are looking for something different, something unique, something that doesn’t rely on recalling the past, but on understanding who you and your partner are today, so that you can have much brighter tomorrow.
The most hidden layer of communication is the layer that distinguishes the differences between men and women and how these differences show up in our communication and then play out in our marriage/relationship.
Identifying and de-mystifying those differences is a core component of the “Between Men and Women” Couples Communication Success Retreat.
This topic is a big one, and for this reason, I have put a whole teaching together for you in the next section.